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Parent Effectiveness Training

What is P.E.T.?

​Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) is an 8-week group parenting class teaching you proven communication skills to help you become compassionate without being permissive, and to be more assertive without bribery, yelling or commercialized techniques such as time-out.

The overall goal of P.E.T. is to teach parents very practical commu-nication and conflict resolution skills to create more happy and satisfying relationships with their children.

The skills we teach are:

  • Listening with Understanding to help children express thought and feelings and solve their own problems independently.

  • Preventing Problem Proactively so that families are happier and stronger.

  • Communicating Assertively and Honestly to help parents express their wants and needs and deal with unacceptable behavior.

  • No-Lose Conflict Resolution so the needs of both parents and children are met. 

  • Strategies to Deal with Values Collisions between parents and kids to increase understanding and acceptance.

What Will You Learn?

  • How to talk to your children so that they will listen to you.

  • How to listen to your children so they feel genuinely understood.

  • How to resolve conflicts and problems in your family so that no one loses and problems stay solved.

  • A method for troubleshooting family problems and knowing which skills to use to solve them.

How Will You & Your Family Benefit?

  • Your children will feel free to discuss their problems and concerns with you instead of withdrawing.

  • They will learn self-discipline, self-control and an inner sense of personal responsibility.

  • You will learn how to work with each other instead of against each other.

  • You’ll experience fewer angry outbursts and more problem-solving.

  • Everyone can participate in rule-setting so all will feel motivated to comply with the rules.

  • Fewer power struggles–less tension, less resentment, more fun, more peace, more love.

Course Outline

Week 1: Origins of P.E.T.; Values and the Behavior Window

  • Basic overview of course goals, content and objectives

  • ​Behavior window

  • Problem ownership

  • Assessing personal needs and goals for the course

Week 2: Learning Helping Skills and Avoiding Communication Roadblocks

  • Identifying when your child has a problem

  • 12 Roadblocks of Communication

  • Helping skills and Active Listening

Week 3: Active Listening Practice

  • Active Listening practice

  • Helping skills with young children and babies

Week 4: Preventing Problems and Conflicts

  • Self disclosure

  • The No-Problem Area- I messages

  • Learning Stages

Week 5: Confronting Unacceptable Behaviors

  • Confronting unacceptable behavior

  • iMessages, active listening and gear shifting

Week 6: Resolving Conflicts

  • Win-Lose methods

  • Method III and the six steps

  • Needs and solutions

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Week 7: Applying Method III

  • Six steps of Method III

  • Practice using Method III

Week 8: Resolving Value Conflicts

  • Resolving values collisions

  • Sharing values and values in conflicts

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